One of my readers reached out to ask what advice I’d give others, not just as an author, but person-to-person. Here’s my reply.
“What’s the Best Advice You’d Give Someone?”
This is a tough question to answer, because I’m a very opinionated person and have bushels of advice on a lot of topics. The one bit of advice I have that applies to all aspects of life would be this:
ALWAYS trust your instinct. Call it your higher self, or super conscious, or whatever you need to, but it receives everything you experience, even if you didn’t consciously notice it. It processes the data, evaluates possible situations/outcomes, and sends you signals to let you know what’s in your best interest for survival (physical, emotional, spiritual). Trusting your instinct is actually trusting yourself, which is vital for you to thrive and blossom.
If we trust your instincts and something didn’t work out, we have a tendency to start doubting ourselves. Don’t do that. Look around at the people you rely on. One of those people is not your ally. They may be smiling and saying the right things, but they are sabotaging you.
Usually, it’s the person who wants to step up and “fix” your “mistake” or “comfort” you. They don’t want you to succeed because your success equals a loss of some sort to them (ie. they lose their victim, student, fan, advantage, promotion, etc.). Or, your victory puts you “above” them in their mind, which means they’re being diminished. In some cases, it’s as simple as: If your hard work pays off for you, they will be expected to put in an effort to better themselves or their situation. But if you don’t succeed, you’ll stay on the same level as them.
Blocked?
When you follow your instincts and do what you know is right, but “fail” or find yourself blocked, Auntie Rosa says:
“Quietly look for the assassin and remove yourself from their sphere of influence.”
That advice keeps us being the positive in humanity.
❗️ Note: Some of us were raised by “assassins” who undermine or override our decisions, block our autonomy, and blame us for “failures”. We grew up not trusting ourselves because we’re always “wrong”. We were groomed to surround ourselves with other “assassins” who keep us off balance and second-guessing ourselves. If this is you, please get help to learn what a healthy relationship with others (and yourself) looks like. Then prune your social (and family) circle accordingly.
Priceless Advice
Mr. Rogers said his mother once told him:
“Always look for the helpers.”
That beautiful advice keeps us seeing the positive in humanity ❤️
Original Article published June 9, 2019
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